I grew up coveting a family – like the ones I watched on those corny TV sitcoms – happy and loving. My reality was that my parents divorced when I was young, so my mom, baby brother, and I moved across the country to be closer to my aunts. During my teenage years, my mother remarried, and our home became a real-life version of the Brady Brunch. It was an adjustment having new people in my life—living under the same roof. Home didn’t always feel safe, and with so many different personalities co-mingling together, it was, for lack of better terms, a cluster fuck at times. I desperately wanted to create my own version of a safe and loving family. That desperation caused me to make some injudicious choices, led me into toxic situationships, and put me in spaces where I wasn’t fully appreciated or valued. If we’re going to be honest— I didn’t fully appreciate or value myself enough to recognize that I was putting myself in those spaces.
After some necessary reflection and much-needed therapy (thank you TherapyLab), I later realized I had contributed to those toxic relationships. I was partly responsible for the lack of communication, and would allow things that bothered or upset me to slide, and sweep them under the rug as if nothing had happened. I was afraid that any confrontation would end a relationship, and I was part of the crowd with the tralatitious belief that my value as a woman was associated with my relationship status. I wanted a family and loving partner, but I was no longer willing to live with unfair expectations and unrealistic notions to have them. I needed to express myself about things that bothered me without fearing abandonment. I wanted to be my most authentic, weird, playful self without hiding those parts of myself to appease or attract someone else.
My next steps required me to make a change and establish boundaries. I needed to do the inner work to transform myself into the woman I felt could be: a healthy and loving matriarch. And part of that journey required me to dig deep, tune out the outside world, and focus on myself to learn what my actual needs and desires were.
So, I entered my intentional single phase. I mean, I was always single, but this time, I wasn’t actively trying to date, or get to know someone other than myself, because I didn’t know who I was and what I wanted. I knew what society told me I should look for in a partner, but it was all depthless and shallow. I began working on my communication skills, learned about my attachment style, set healthy boundaries, and learned how to implement them. I read books on habit-building and breaking, and I even got into my finances, which led me to join a financial course for women called the Confident Money Club, which helped me change my money mindset.
I soon realized I couldn’t be the only single woman needing this information, and finding different resources and tools from multiple sources was time-consuming. Why couldn’t there be just one place I could go to find all of these tools? Where were the publications for single women that could assist with contributing to our self-growth journeys? I couldn’t find one, so I built one. That’s when Single Girl Club was born.
Single Girl Club ® is a media and lifestyle brand that advocates for the empowerment of single women and challenges the negative stereotypes surrounding them. Its mission is to usher in a new era of singlehood, where women can thrive and achieve their goals on their own terms—while creating tools and resources to help single women build healthier relationships with themselves and others. With the steady rise of single women, Single Girl Club ® caters to this audience by providing educational articles and blog posts that showcase the importance of self-love, how to create financial security, and how to cultivate joyful dating experiences. We teach that self-love and self-care aren’t solely physical, but are mental and spiritual as well. We partner with financial educators, wellness and dating coaches, and more to help our audience of single women establish realistic life and love goals—and provide them with the tools they need to create actionable steps to achieve them.
As we continue to grow and evolve, we’ve recently expanded to in-person events to continue building our community. Join us for the next one, and check out our previous collaborations:
- An in-person sound bath with LA based The Next Fun Thing
- A successful wine tasting for Mother’s Day to raise money for the LA non-profit Single Moms Planet, which provides resources and tools to help single-mother entrepreneurs scale their businesses
- A phenomenal panel discussion with celebrity stylists and fashion influencers at the popular retail brand Frame in LA, which focused on teaching single women the importance of creating their style and how it can contribute to helping them show up as their most authentic selves in their work, dating, and personal lives.
- Lastly, we have multiple ebooks that teach single women how to maximize their single season and how to create a more joyful and fun dating experience.
Single Girl Club is my love letter to single women. No matter where we are, we must live on our terms. We should not compare ourselves, or our timelines with others because that comparison is the thief of joy. Being single is no longer the death sentence it was portrayed to be years ago. It doesn’t have to have the woe is me narrative and shouldn’t be seen as a lonely and desolate period in our lives. It can be thrilling, adventurous, and an opportunity for self-discovery. It’s becoming a liberating movement for women, helping us realize that we are the choosers. If we take our time, learn who we are and what we want, and build healthy habits and relationship skills, we can also have our own corny TV sitcom families (if that’s the dream).
Check out Single Girl Club and join our mailing list. We create, develop, and cultivate encouraging content that will motivate you to build healthier relationships, starting with your relationship with yourself.
Yasss! Love this Meagan! Thank you for creating your platform to help “us” aka single women, find joy and most importantly ourselves in our season(s) of singledom instead of trying to escape it.